Snapshot (6-10 min)
Get started by watching the lesson video as a group. Friendships can be one of the best parts of jr. high, but they can also bring a lot of drama, pressure, and stress. In this lesson, students learn that the Bible teaches us to pay attention to the “fruit” our friendships produce and to be wise about who we allow to influence us the most. We can love and be kind to everyone without making everyone part of our closest circle. God wants us to choose close friends who sharpen us, encourage us, and help us grow closer to him.
Icebreaker (5-10 min)
Character Draft: Ask the question below. Go around the circle and have each student answer.
What fictional character would be the absolute worst person to have in your friend group?
Examples: Sid from Toy Story, Gollum from Lord of the Rings, etc.
Transition: This was just a funny question to start off with, but like we learned, it is important to evaluate our frienships and what the fruit is.
Highlights (10 min)
Take turns reading the talking points and Scripture passages aloud. These points help summarize the lesson and give students key takeaways for the day. Have students read the talking points and verses.
- Look at the fruit of your friendships. Pay attention to what happens when you spend time with certain people. If a friendship constantly leads to gossip, drama, bad choices, or insecurity, that tells you something important. Matthew 7:16-18.
- The people closest to you will influence you. You might think your friends won’t change you, but over time we often start thinking, talking, and acting like the people we spend the most time with. Choose your closest friends wisely. 1 Corinthians 15:33.
- Great friends sharpen you instead of dragging you down. A good friend encourages you, tells you the truth, and helps you become a better follower of Jesus. Ask yourself if your friendships are helping you grow or pulling you backward. Proverbs 27:17.
- You can love everyone well without being close friends with everyone. Jesus cared about all kinds of people, but he only had a small group of people in his closest circle. You can be kind to someone while still setting healthy boundaries.
- Don’t only ask, “Are my friends good for me?” Ask, “Am I a good friend?” Stay away from gossip, bullying, pressure, and unnecessary drama. Be the kind of friend who encourages people and helps point them toward Jesus. Luke 6:31
Unpack (25 min)
Read through the questions one at a time and discuss them as a group. Encourage everyone to participate, listen well, and share honestly. This is an opportunity to learn from God’s Word and from one another.
- What part of today’s lesson stood out to you the most? Why?
- What are some signs that a friendship is healthy? What are some signs that it might be unhealthy?
- Have you ever noticed yourself acting differently because of the people you were hanging around? Why do you think friends influence us so much?
- What’s the difference between being kind to someone and making them part of your closest friend group?
- What could you do if your friends start gossiping, making fun of someone, or pressuring you to do something you know is wrong?
- Think about the kind of friend you are right now. What is one thing you could do this week to become a friend who “sharpens” others and helps them grow closer to God?