Sex is about pleasure, procreation, protection and a proclamation. Teach your kids all of the P's so they have the right picture of what sex is and what it isn't.

Talking Points:

  • Many parents wonder how they’re supposed to broach the subject of sex with their kids. The key is not to be afraid of it. Your kids will learn about sex one way or another, so it might as well be from you.
  • There are 4 P’s to God’s design for sex:
    • Pleasure. God created sex for our pleasure. It’s okay to tell your kids that sex is fun and enjoyable.
    • Procreation. Sex is for making babies but sex is also about creating new life. When a husband and wife marry and have sex, they are joined as one. A new creation is born in this context as well.
    • Protection. The sexual union protects couples from outside temptations. Couples shouldn’t deprive each other of sex so not to be tempted to seek it from someone else.
    • Proclamation. The sexual union between married couples tells a bigger story. It reminds us that God created us with a plan and a desire for pleasure. And, marriage is a reflection of how Christ loves his Church. 
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. How was sex discussed or portrayed in your home growing up? What was helpful? What was confusing?
  3. Do you know what messages your kids have already received about sex? Explain. How could you find out what they know already?
  4. What makes you the feel the most uncomfortable about broaching the sex talk with your kids?
  5. Review the 4 P’s. How could incorporating these things help you to have a conversation with your kids?
  6. Read 1 Corinthians 7:5. How healthy is your sexual relationship with your spouse right now? How can it improve?
  7. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

This is part 2 of the Parenting in a Sexualized Culture Series.