Like a missile aimed at and steered toward a certain target, good parental discipline has a purpose and a desired outcome in the lives of children.

Talking Points:

  • God disciplines us for a purpose and we should use that example with our kids. Hebrews 12:7, 10-11
  • Discipline should always benefit our kids. It should be to teach them self-discipline, learn right from wrong and how boundaries keep them safe.
  • As parents, we should have an idea of what our kids will look like when they are honoring and serving God. That’s the trajectory we aim at when we discipline them.
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Think about how your parents disciplined you. Was it more about fixing a pressing need, or aiming at a larger purpose? Explain.
  3. Tell us about a time when you disciplined your kids more for your benefit than for theirs.
  4. Read Hebrews 12:7. How have you seen God work in your life through the consequences for sinful acts?
  5. God disciplines us to create “a harvest of right living.” What are you trying to create when you discipline your children?
  6. Read Hebrews 12:10-11. Do you agree that to be effective, discipline has to be painful? Why or why not? What’s the boundary between discipline and abuse?
  7. What’s your vision for what you want your kids to turn out like? How can you shape your approach to discipline to encourage that trajectory?
  8. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?